This
week, I decided to take a field trip to Pollock to hand out cards. I handed out
two on two different days; one to a male, one to a female. Spoiler alert: Neither called back. Both gave responses almost exactly similar to one another: both nodded politely, heard me out, took the card, thanked me,
and walked away. I get this response pretty damned often, and it bothers me
quite a bit; no, it’s not because these are the people that never call back.
It’s the part where they thank me. I’m serious; a conservative estimate would
be that at least half of the people that have received notecards thus far have
thanked me before I thanked them. Thanks? For what? Think about it- What did I
do that deserves thanks? I understand that people may not say entirely sensible things while
under pressure, and in all fairness, I suppose it could be a reflex to say
“thanks” when handed something. Nonetheless, I find it to be getting a little pedantic, so
perhaps I should just get used to it.
But enough
ranting, something happened Saturday night that was incredibly interesting. I
was sitting outside with a few friends eating some cigarettes when two girls
approached us with a package of cookies, offering us some. At the time it was a
blessing because, to be entirely honest, I was really jonesin’ for some
cookies. So, inquisitive as I am, I asked the biddies why they were giving baked treats to strangers. Turns out they were from Penn State Abdington,
and were doing a project for a social sciences class in which they offered
cookies to strangers and would see if they took them. After shaking off the lab
rat feeling, I asked them of their figures. I found their data surprising: I
was their sixth taker out of twenty five people, a success rate around 25%, within a half-hour.
This is greater than my success rate of three in sixteen, but not much
more. I find it unbelievable that they aren’t much more successful than I have been;
after all, cookies are always delicious, and the benefit of accepting is right
in front of you without much investment at all. So even with something as easy
and rewarding as accepting a cookie, people still only bite about twenty-five
percent of the time. Interesting indeed.
So there are a few mysteries on the table here. Why do people say thanks to me? Why wouldn't more people accept cookies? Was I seriously eating cigarettes? Some things we may never know... But we should at least discuss them.
I don't know about most people, but if someone offered me a cookie I would take immediately without question, cookies are delicious. I guess a lot of the people asked (both by you and the cookie girls)had the importance of not talking to or taking baked goods from strangers stressed on them as kids.
ReplyDeleteVery interesting experiment! I agree that there are probably a lot of people whose parents preached to them to stay away from strangers as kids. I wonder how much of a difference it would have made though if you tried this in the fall when people, especially freshman, still barely know anyone. As to why people thank you, I would thank you for being friendly and nice instead of the typical person who avoids eye-contact and a smile!
ReplyDeleteI really like this expriment (both yours and the cookie one), its very brave of you to walk up to strangers and give them your number. That being said do you think that maybe people do not respond because they do not have more background on the subject? I know that before reading your blog I would not have been responsive to stangers (I probably would have walked away before letting you talk) but now that I know what is going on or that this may be the reason why some random guy is giving me his number I am a lot more willing to respond. Just something to think about!
ReplyDeleteHaha. Eating cigarettes. Anyway, just to give people the benefit of the doubt...they might simply be shy. People are generally not trusting of people. Thats the way the world is.
ReplyDeletethats actually really funny that they would not even accept a cookie. But then again I am not sure if I would either. Personally I think people just have a hard time being fully friendly and accepting to people they dont know.
ReplyDeleteYou're tellin' me, sister. I'm starting to think it's not because I'm handing out notecards that I'm not getting responses, but it's because of our culture of xenophobia.
DeleteWow six comments this week, aren't YOU popular?!
ReplyDeleteAbout people saying thanks-- I always find myself saying thanks when it doesn't make any sense. Or I say ouch when I hit my leg on something, even though it didn't hurt. Or I'll run into my desk chair in the morning and say "sorry." Today I ate dinner at West and the guy was like "enjoy!" and started to say "you too!" but I quickly trailed off and ran away, laughing at myself. It's strange to look at all the odd language habits we get into.